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I think I might have my first mommy-friend.  It is early to tell for certain, but I think it might work out.

It is a little sad, as my kids are 4 and 6, but I have never had a mommy-friend.  I have always been a loner, preferring to spend my non-working time enjoying the kids or maintaining the household, instead of finding someone to hang out with.  Before we moved, I would take the kids to play with their cousins, but my sisters don’t really count for me.  I joined the PTA last year when my oldest started kindergarten in an attempt to meet other parents.  Let’s just stick with it didn’t go well and I’m glad we moved.

And I complicate things by being rather introverted.  After running into the same father picking up his first-grader from after-school care and then immediately again at preschool before we drove to houses within 1/4 mile of each other, I finally introduced myself to ease the awkwardness.  Our first-graders are in different classes, but they sit together on the bus, at lunch and during after-school care.  Our preschoolers are in the same class and sleep on cots next to each other.  They became hard to avoid.

So after months of further awkward “Hi” and “Have a nice day” and the kids begging me to go play with them on the weekend, I finally gave him my phone number to “pass along to the wife.”  Because randomly handing my number to another person, forget about a guy, was giving me enough anxiety without worrying about the other wife or my husband taking it the wrong way.  I had seen the wife a few times in passing at preschool but not introduced myself because she was always talking to someone else.

When she called, she was just as nervous as I was.  Good news for me, she also does not know a lot of people in town and had heard plenty about my kids from her own.  One of her concerns she expressed to her husband was if I was normal.  Was I trying to engage and involve her in something?  Did I expect that she would be my social chauffeur?  Happy to say, I came across as normal to her husband.  Also “tiny.”  I’m not sure how I feel about that one yet.  I debated it with my husband and he concurred with tiny.  Maybe I should start working on my upper body a bit more.

A pretty cool bonus is that she is also a budding runner.  I have never run with anyone before (save for races) and would happy to pick up a friend for a run or 2 during the week.

Prom 2011

The last close friends I had.  I am on the left in blue and about 15 lbs heavier than now.


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